Idiocy. Complete and utter idiocy.
Am intensely frustrated with the sheer rudeness of some of the Alums for my sorority. One girl, in particular, is causing a lot of problems. I'm extremely angry with her, so here goes my rant:
FIRST of all, the bitch is alum. We have a rule (heck, a national policy) that alums are not allowed to live in the house after they have graduated from the house. Well I got overruled in that regard--I got "told" that she would be allowed to live in this year and was forced to give her a room assignment and roommate. Rooming assignment aside, the responsibility for THAT Minefield will go to our president....now the stupid bitch wants parking in the back lot.
She needs to understand, rooming exceptions are one thing. Parking is a whole other ballgame. It is regulated by the House Mom and House corporation (so, the House Director, maureen) and NOT subject to the authority of any of the girls in the sorority. The president DOES NOT HAVE A SAY IN PARKING ISSUES. That said, the president just called me AGAIN and tried to "tell" me that the back parking situation will remain the same just so this girl will not be upset and will get the parking spot that she wants.
Wow, can anyone say favoritism? Number one, the girl is not a sorority member. She is not active. She is ALUM. And, she is a boarder, not a sorority member entitled to residency, and therefore has no actual say in how the house is run, irrespective of the influence that she may have on the president. Because of liability issues and LAWS, she will probably have to sign a separate rental agreement. This ain't just me trying to cause problems, okay? Both the house Mom and I have had to deal with all sorts of parking snafu's this last year, and we want all that to be avoided in the years ahead.
Just because she can pick up the phone and whine and bitch to the president on this one, I am not going to cave on the issue of who is in charge of parking. She has no actual points and has less priority in the house since she is BEYOND that, as an alum, and the sorority's priorities should be focused on its ACTIVE members.
I'm seriously ticked about this. She's not going to win this one, and my authority is NOT going to be encroached upon again. I'm sorry, does the president understand that we could be paying EXTRA in liability and insurance costs because of this girl living in the house and getting a parking spot? Maybe we should make the president pay for it, hmm? I bet she wouldn't appreciate that much.
Which is why it pisses me off so much when people railroad over me. They just don't understand there's a REASON why I say the shit I do--usually a REALLY GOOD reason. At least the House Director and Mom are behind me on this one. I sent an email off to the advisor about it as well.
Oh, and you want to see a copy of the email that the little bitch had the temerity to send me? Here it is:
I was told that I was getting a single and that is why I agreed to this. I have a small car a Honda Civic 2000. If I do not get the single spot, I am going to take my parking from flem because I do not want to deal with moving my car each time some one needs to get in and out. So if there are no longer single spots I will not be parking the back. Therefore you will need to find a spot for flem to park her car. We made these arrangements last quarter when things were supposedly finalized. Therefore, this is neither of our faults and bad planning on your part and we should not have to suffer. So you will need to find a spot for her and maybe consider not having a bike rack since nobody rides a bike.
-----Original Message-----
From: ME
To: someone@aol.com
Sent: Tue, 30 Aug 2005 10:58:00 -0700
Subject: Re: [aephiucla] (unknown)
Hey SoMeOnE~
There is no single. Parking will be done according to points and car size.
If you have a compact car, all will be well. Otherwise, we'll have to see,
since those spots are hard to park in and very small (we had a lot of
parking problems last year, so we're changing the assignment
policy/process for this year). Please send me back the make, model,
license plate/general info for your car and your phone number so I can
start assigning people with no problems ASAP!! Thanks so much~
LML,
'Lainey
PS: that spot may just be made into one parking space and some
bike/motorbike parking on the side because it's so small.
Quoting someone@aol.com:
> Hey laine,
>
> I was wondering if I still have the first single spot. That is what
> was told to me last quarter and that was the main reason I agreed to
> park in the back parking lot. It seems like you are still trying to
> figure out who is going to park back there. If I do not have that spot
> I do not want to park there which will cause a lot of drama, because I
> will be taking my parking from flem who will then need to park her
> monster of a car in the back. Can you please respond to me ASAP,
> whether or not I will have the single.
>
> Thanks,
> Someone
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: ME
> To: peepz
> Sent: Sun, 28 Aug 2005 17:53:20 -0700
> Subject: [aephiucla] (unknown)
>
>
> Hello AEPHI Residents for FALL 2005!!
> This email is to update you all on what will be going on, etc for the
> majority of this month as well as house policy changes. (It's a LONG
> one,
> but please read carefully and email me back with your questions!)
> First: Since you are all aware of the financial situation of the
> house,
> please bring a mug that you can drink coffee/tea in so that we can cut
> down on paper goods use. Let our guests (and live-outs) use the paper,
> please! Likewise, the towels in the front bathroom are FOR GUESTS ONLY.
> That does NOT include live-outs, or any of the live-ins. If you have
> suggestions for soap scents/types (we have glycerin, currently) please
> write me a note on my door (room 5) or drop me an email.
> Second: This year, we're doing THEMED ROOMS! Everyone, get excited!
> We
> will be decorating our doors, and I'm thinking of having a door
> contest...with a jamba juice prize...yum yum! Also, bring some magnets
> (fun/funny/cute) for our fridges? They're a bit bland--so let's dress
> them up! (Y'all saw my "Elect a Brain to the White House" one last
> year...)
> Third: included with this email will be the PROCTORING LIST FOR FALL
> QUARTER as a pdf file. Please print this out and post it somewhere in
> your room, as fines WILL unfortunately be enforced this year by the
> House
> Mom---proctoring is a responsibility that you have as a
> renter/resident,
> not just as a sister. But don't worry, the fines should never be more
> than you can pay...you are always welcome to come and talk to the House
> Mom, President or I about any problems! If you can't pay at all, I can
> always arrange some job/volunteer service around the house (there's a
> lot
> that can be done...), so no worries!
> Fourth: there is now a message area in the Breezeway! You can leave
> your sisters a sticky-tab note! So, please do not use the whiteboard
> (near the House Manager section) for any notes you have--it will be
> used
> by EXEC members to let you know of any recent updates/changes in plans
> and news. I know you hate finals and all, but there's a new board
> upstairs you can use...
> Fifth: For those of you who will be using the back parking lot,
> there
> will be additional parking agreements that you must sign in your
> live-in
> packet. For everyone else, please be aware that Parking in the DRIVEWAY
> will result in fines--25 for the initial offense, then 50, 75...etc.
> Oh,
> and you WILL get towed. If anything, pull into a spot in the back
> parking
> lot. You can always move your car. Also, due to theft/key problems, the
> key hanger will be UPSTAIRS in the back hallway (I'm moving it). All
> back
> parking lot users WILL BE REQUIRED TO HAVE A SPARE KEY THAT THEY KEEP
> IN
> THE KEY HANGER BOX. So please, everyone go and get them now, so that
> you
> don't have to scramble at the beginning of the year (when everything
> else
> is going on). Let's save our lovely House Mom the trouble of dealing
> with
> all the hassles of parking--and eliminate any potential problems BEFORE
> they arise, please?! Oh, and all parkers, email me please the model and
> type of car, as well as your license plates! I'll be doing your
> assignments based on points and model of car...
> Sixth: Anyone who wants to paint the driveway, show up early! That
> means last year's new PC's...Bring your ideas!
> Seventh: If you want your walls washed or carpet cleaned in your
> room,
> please email me back. We're thinking of renting a cleaner and buying
> cleaning supplies, and paying oscar/yolanda 50 bucks a room--if you're
> interested, let me know. Otherwise, you'll have to do it during winter
> vacation...If you want to do it yourself, please let me know. The
> carpets
> are one of the things that can really absorb dust and dirt, so if
> you're
> sensitive to things like that, it's a really good idea! (I am, so I'll
> be
> paying up.)
> Eighth: This one's exciting; you get to put up curtains in your
> "new"
> room! Please use tension rods (no holes in the walls!)--which are
> readily
> available at big lots, target or other places for about 10-20 bucks. If
> you're not crafty, take me to the fabric store, pick out some fabric
> you
> like, and I'll MAKE you some curtains--to match your room theme! The
> old
> blinds are VERY dirty, and almost ALL of them are broken, so they've
> got
> to go!
> Ninth: girls living in rooms 5,6,7,8,9 and 10, the bars will be
> taken
> off your windows. I will be getting you different window security
> measures, since the bars for the most part do not function and are a
> terrible FIRE hazard!! Oh, and speaking of fire hazards--we'll be
> having
> fire drills again this quarter (and every quarter, actually).
> Final note: if anyone wants to help me garden this year (we're going
> to
> plant some edible stuff! yay!) please bring a pair of crappy
> shoes/jeans/hat/shirt--I've got the gloves! Also, we may be doing some
> planting and watering during work week. Unless, of course, we're
> practicing for our FABULOUS RECRUITMENT that we'll have this year!
>
> Thank you all for perservering and reading my email--questions,
> comments,
> and concerns---310.422.3876 and lainlong@ucla.edu!
> A massive MUCHAS GRACIAS and lets make this year living in the BEST ONE
> YET!!!
> LML~
> 'Lainey
Hmmm, bitch anyone? I certainly thought so. AND I just had to write an email to our president to try to resolve the issue after she called lea and bitched to her (favoritism, anyone?) so here THAT goes:
Hello President~
I know that issues like these may cause problems with you, but unfortunately, on this account, you and I have no authority over the parking situation in the back parking lot. I have already spoken to Maureen and informed our advisor about the liability issues that may arise having a boarder in the house.
As an alum, according to national policy, SOMEONE is really not allowed to live in the house at all in order to avoid having to pay extra liability and insurance costs, as well as having a separate rental agreement for her to sign. I understand that our financial situation is dire, so it may be entirely necessary for her to live in, however, she is not guaranteed parking just because she is granted tenancy in the house. Also, please understand that since she is not technically an active, she does not retain active points because of her alumni status. Yes, she was assigned a room based on her past points, but these may or may not be applied by the housing corporation authorities when granting parking agreements.
As the situation stands now, if she continues her behavior by demanding your authority rule in her favor above the rental and tenancy authority of the House corporation, she may be asked to find parking or tenancy elsewhere...it all depends on the regulations of the Corporation, which I have asked Maureen to find out about for me.
Parking is an entirely separate agreement with the housing corporation, and as such is not under our authority, except the assignment of spots and their approval by the House Mom under the authority of the House Director.
I completely understand your authority to overrule me, however, on the issue of parking there is no overruling the House Corporation. The House Corporation is not subject to the sorority's authority at all. I have had several talks with Charmaine as the representative of the House Corporation and have mentioned already to Maureen about issues that have occurred in the back parking lot with damaged cars, etc., and in her authority as House Mom, Charmaine helped me write out a parking agreement that she felt was fair to the girls. Maureen approved and agreed with this, because it would save a lot of time and problems with the girls parking issues throughout the year.
Part of that parking agreement was a decision that parking would be assigned on the basis of car size and points. I wasn't just spouting that off, it really was. I'll attach a copy of the Parking agreement so you can read.
Please give me a few days for the advisor and Maureen to get in contact with me, and I will immediately inform you how the parking situation will be resolved. As of the present, I would rather not have to deal with parking squabbles, and my solution, proposed to Charmaine and Maureen, is that both single spaces go to House Mom and Cook to eliminate any hard feelings the girls may have, and avoid further issues with the "single" spots in the back parking lot. I have a feeling that this is probably what will happen.
Since lisa has chosen to write me back in a rather abrupt manner, please let her know, since she has chosen you to complain to and not me, that we will try to resolve the situation, but she still may be out of luck on the spot she wants; it is at the discretion of the House Mom who really gets what spot, especially if there might be problems. As I have it worked out now, she would have the outside spot in the first parking lane nearest Charmaine's apartment.
Like so:
(back of lot)
Marchlewicz Christine?/me
Spino Corso
Brownstein Lox
Hirata Ershoff
(corner of charmaine's)
Charmaine
Cook
(steps)
If she is still upset on this issue, please have her call me or call and talk to Maureen after a couple of days. As I said, we need to be properly informed as to the entire business.
Thank you for contacting me so promptly on this issue. I will be forwarding this email to Charmaine and Erin.
LML,
Elaine
PS: please also inform lisa that parking arrangements are NOT finalized until the end of the summer before the school year ends, because of problems and people changing their minds, etc. I'm Really sorry she was misinformed as to that fact, and she seems rather brassed off at me for that fact.
Quoting "President"
> laine,
>
> I was really disappointed to read these emails. Like I said in the
> message I left you, there will be 2 single spots next year, like there always
> have been. It was only an issue because both Devon and Eulynn are really bad
> drivers/parkers. Two spots have worked and will continue to work.
> Please keep in mind that I have the right to overrule any decisions made about
> anything going on/changing with regards to the house. I appreciate you
> being on top of everything, but I do not appreciate you making changes
> without my knowledge or approval. Please, in the future consult me
> before you have an idea to change something. Furthermore, I have already told
> you numerous times that the spots will be based on points, and points
> alone.
> There is not a spot on the point sheet for size of car. It is NOT a
> factor in determining the space you earn in the parking lot. Your
> ACTIVE points earned are the only things that determine this.
>
> The below matter has been dealt with, and I have already contacted
> Charmaine. I hope that this does not continue to be an issue. This job
> as President involves a lot, and I do not need conflict being created by
> my Exec board, or my DIRECTORS board. Thank you. If you have further
> questions, please contact me.
>
> LML
> president
> ----- Forwarded message from someone@aol.com -----
> Date: Tue, 30 Aug 2005 17:57:52 -0400
> From: someone2@aol.com
> Reply-To: someone@aol.com
> Subject: Fwd: [aephiucla] (unknown)
> To: president@ucla.edu
>
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: ME
> To: someone@aol.com
> Sent: Tue, 30 Aug 2005 12:06:53 -0700
> Subject: Re: [aephiucla] (unknown)
>
>
> I will consult the executive board and Housing Director and reply to
> you as soon as possible on this issue. Thank you.
> Elaine
>
A nice, noncommittal reply, right? I was trying not to be rude to her.
> Quoting someone@aol.com:
>
> > I was told that I was getting a single and that is why I agreed to this. I have a small car a Honda Civic 2000. If I do not get the single spot, I am going to take my parking from flem because I do not want to deal with moving my car each time some one needs to get in and out. So if there are no longer single spots I will not be parking the back. Therefore you will need to find a spot for flem to park her car.
> > We made these arrangements last quarter when things were supposedly finalized. Therefore, this is neither of our faults and bad planning on your part and we should not have to suffer. So you will need to find a spot for her and maybe consider not having a bike rack since nobody rides a bike.
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: ME
> > To: someone@aol.com
> > Sent: Tue, 30 Aug 2005 10:58:00 -0700
> > Subject: Re: [aephiucla] (unknown)
> >
> >
> > Hey SoMeOnE~
> > There is no single. Parking will be done according to points and car
> > size. If you have a compact car, all will be well. Otherwise, we'll have to
> > see, since those spots are hard to park in and very small (we had a lot of
> > parking problems last year, so we're changing the assignment policy/process for this year). Please send me back the make, model, license plate/general info for your car and your phone number so I can start assigning people with no problems ASAP!! Thanks so much~
> > LML,
> > 'Lainey
> >
> > PS: that spot may just be made into one parking space and some
> > bike/motorbike parking on the side because it's so small.
> >
> > Quoting someone2@aol.com:
> >
> > > Hey Laine,
> > >
> > > I was wondering if I still have the first single spot. That is
> what was told to me last quarter and that was the main reason I agreed
> to park in the back parking lot. It seems like you are still trying
> to figure out who is going to park back there. If I do not have that
> > spot I do not want to park there which will cause a lot of drama,
> because I will be taking my parking from flem who will then need to park her
> > > monster of a car in the back. Can you please respond to me ASAP,
> > > whether or not I will have the single.
> > >
> > > Thanks,
> > > someone
> > >
Just a thought, SOMEONE, when you're going to be rude at the outset, try not to forward people the emails, it just makes you look like a solid bitch. A solid, RUDE bitch. Be more careful about what you write, it can come back to bite you in the butt.
Oh, and president needs to butt out. I'm not the one causing problems, SOMEONE is by being rude in the first place. Butt out, let me do my job. I'm not power tripping, I'm trying to make sure there aren't FURTHER problems during the year. Because there will be if SOMEONE is treated like a princess. Sorry chica, but you're not the priority of the house. We love you as an Alum, but not enought to bend over backwards and get fucked up the ass. The House Corporation and House is a BUSINESS--and you may or may not fit into its agenda.
I especially love the email that President sent regarding my position and authority.
Hey honey, by the way, I have just as much authority as you do to the housing director! I'm supposed to report to her. DIRECTLY. And the House Mom. DIRECTLY.
Butt out, bitches.
hahah, LET her try to "deal with it". I dare her to try. Humpf.
